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		<title>By: cool chick</title>
		<link>http://www.tinamats.com/old/on-singlehood-love-and-surrender/#comment-40</link>
		<dc:creator>cool chick</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 09 Oct 2009 10:28:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>hope youll respond to me..i really want someone to talk to..to make me feel better..im sooooryyy :(((</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>hope youll respond to me..i really want someone to talk to..to make me feel better..im sooooryyy :(((</p>
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		<title>By: cool chick</title>
		<link>http://www.tinamats.com/old/on-singlehood-love-and-surrender/#comment-39</link>
		<dc:creator>cool chick</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 09 Oct 2009 09:56:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>ei tina!! im sooo happy bout reading your article! im also a member of the NBSB
society!

this were the moments that i really feel sooo sad..because like yours..
i have to give up someone to avoid for a possible heartbreak...i do like him sooo
much but his really this hot and many girls run up to him and also gay! just
recently i knew something so crazy that it really break my heart.. this isn&#039;t
 happen once but many times already and its not &quot;US&quot; yet..then im experiencing things
like this..how much more if we will be together..SAD right..but i have to let him
 go..and believe that GOD will give me someone that will worth the pain and the
wait.

Actually there were guys that wants to court me.. im just the &quot; fear of falling
 inlove&quot; type or commitment maybe.that is why im still single..add to that my
 parents also don&#039;t want me to enter in a relationship because i have to focus
 on my studies first.

i do really feel soo sad right now..but reaiding your article make feel a
little bit ok..and reading those people in your comments also makes me feel
great.

=))))) muchie thank you!!!!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>ei tina!! im sooo happy bout reading your article! im also a member of the NBSB<br />
society!</p>
<p>this were the moments that i really feel sooo sad..because like yours..<br />
i have to give up someone to avoid for a possible heartbreak&#8230;i do like him sooo<br />
much but his really this hot and many girls run up to him and also gay! just<br />
recently i knew something so crazy that it really break my heart.. this isn&#8217;t<br />
 happen once but many times already and its not &#8220;US&#8221; yet..then im experiencing things<br />
like this..how much more if we will be together..SAD right..but i have to let him<br />
 go..and believe that GOD will give me someone that will worth the pain and the<br />
wait.</p>
<p>Actually there were guys that wants to court me.. im just the &#8221; fear of falling<br />
 inlove&#8221; type or commitment maybe.that is why im still single..add to that my<br />
 parents also don&#8217;t want me to enter in a relationship because i have to focus<br />
 on my studies first.</p>
<p>i do really feel soo sad right now..but reaiding your article make feel a<br />
little bit ok..and reading those people in your comments also makes me feel<br />
great.</p>
<p>=))))) muchie thank you!!!!</p>
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		<title>By: &#187; The Sacrament of Waiting &#187; Refine Me</title>
		<link>http://www.tinamats.com/old/on-singlehood-love-and-surrender/#comment-38</link>
		<dc:creator>&#187; The Sacrament of Waiting &#187; Refine Me</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 06 Sep 2009 13:41:32 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] This is one of days when I&#8217;m tired of all my &#8220;Single Life Rocks!&#8221; mantra, when all that I have learned from the past years does nothing to comfort me. I&#8217;m just tired of [...]</description>
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		<title>By: shylynne</title>
		<link>http://www.tinamats.com/old/on-singlehood-love-and-surrender/#comment-37</link>
		<dc:creator>shylynne</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Jun 2009 16:24:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>im still young and i know there&#039;s a lot more to come but can i just say that I am truly inspired by you!=) serzly! i mean it is so cool pala to know people who thinks like i do! and same situation pa!;) lalo na dun sa first part of your blog.

&quot;Yes, I’ve never had a boyfriend or a suitor, but I’ve had my own share of crushes, even more serious crushes, what-if’s and what-might-have-been’s. I’ve filled notebooks and blogs about a particular guy, documenting every moment that involved him or at least thoughts of him. I’ve wrriten stories and poems about these guys. I’ve wasted lots of money on texting some guys who I really like (and them never replying as much). I’ve got songs that remind me of them and of events that involve them. I’ve got remembrances stuck in my journal, Y!M archives saved in my computer, and text messages written in special notebooks. And most of all, I’ve had my share of tears whenever I’d feel depressed or disappointed about the guy and something he did, or did not do. Though I’ve never been in a break-up,, I’ve been in other situations that I think almost felt like a break-up&quot; THIS IS SO0O0O0 ME! hahaha!

 Ang funny, it&#039;s as if you&#039;re bursting my bubble! thanks a lot ate tina! you made my night!=D</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>im still young and i know there&#8217;s a lot more to come but can i just say that I am truly inspired by you!=) serzly! i mean it is so cool pala to know people who thinks like i do! and same situation pa!;) lalo na dun sa first part of your blog.</p>
<p>&#8220;Yes, I’ve never had a boyfriend or a suitor, but I’ve had my own share of crushes, even more serious crushes, what-if’s and what-might-have-been’s. I’ve filled notebooks and blogs about a particular guy, documenting every moment that involved him or at least thoughts of him. I’ve wrriten stories and poems about these guys. I’ve wasted lots of money on texting some guys who I really like (and them never replying as much). I’ve got songs that remind me of them and of events that involve them. I’ve got remembrances stuck in my journal, Y!M archives saved in my computer, and text messages written in special notebooks. And most of all, I’ve had my share of tears whenever I’d feel depressed or disappointed about the guy and something he did, or did not do. Though I’ve never been in a break-up,, I’ve been in other situations that I think almost felt like a break-up&#8221; THIS IS SO0O0O0 ME! hahaha!</p>
<p> Ang funny, it&#8217;s as if you&#8217;re bursting my bubble! thanks a lot ate tina! you made my night!=D</p>
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		<title>By: shylynne</title>
		<link>http://www.tinamats.com/old/on-singlehood-love-and-surrender/#comment-36</link>
		<dc:creator>shylynne</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Jun 2009 16:09:40 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>hi ms. tina!=) oh-so-true! God knows what is best for us we just have to wait for the right time to come…though it sounds cliche eh yun ang totoo! in our barkada ako lang ang walang boyfriend as in NBSB.

I&#039;m just plain and ordinary like any other teens, i do not have superficial power on things but i know deep within that this God&#039;s given life to me is EXTRAORDINARY.

Being part of the so-called NO BOYFRIEND SINCE BIRTH SOCIETY gave me a great opportunity to engage myself in worthwhile things and extend my love to more people, that is of course without doubts and hesitations. As of the moment I am an advocate of children&#039;s rights and various youth programs.

oo nga, hindi lang ako basta single!hindi lang toh nangyayari dahil choice ko, at may mga bagay akong kinakatakutan. I believe there is a greater purpose why God made me like this today. Perhaps it is beause God wants me to share my passion and affection to people who really needs me. Yung tipong mas marami akong nabibgyan ng pagmamahal sa puso ko kaysa ituon ko sa isang tao na possible naman akong bitawan at ilaglag sa huli, isa pa mas marami rin ang alam kong totoong nagmamahal sakin. Every night I pray for God&#039;s guidance, I pray that He may give me enough strength so that I could stand firm on my convictions and be able to share my positive beliefs.

Being single taught me a lot of things like knowing my priorities (studies and family), independence, enjoying myself and being able to offer more time on things that are more vital, more time to spend with my family and friends, exploring possibilities, etc.

Now that I am 18 hindi ko hinahayaan na maovercome ako ng feelings and emotions ko, EASIER SAID THAN DONE! hindi naman kasi maaalis sakin na magtaka or magtanong ng “bakit kaya hindi ko pa siya nakikilala?” “when is he going to enter my so-called LIFE?”. I believe it is just normal to ask such questions lalo na kung ang environment mo eh puro lovers but I just realize na everything has a purpose. It’s difficult din naman to jump into a relationship na hindi ka sigurado, yung tipong puno ng uncertainty. I may not be able to find my significant other yet but i know God has blessed me with great family and friends, and that fact makes me realize that i am luckier than anybody else.

It takes a lot of courage and faith in order to keep my purity and stay single, but I am willing to surrender it all to God, the Highest, simply because I know what I ought to have. I have come to realize na kelangan munang maging matatag yung foundation ng relationship ko with God before anything else. And if He is seeing that I am responsible and mature enough with my actions that is the right time that He would give me my other half, someone I would cherish until my dying day.

I am not a perfect daughter, I also struggle at times but through my undying FAITH to God I know that He has prepared better things, far from what I have dreamt of.

Right now I am wearing my purity ring, and this ring isn&#039;t just an ordinary ring, but a symbol of my commitment to chastity and my belief that I am worth waiting for.

I admire you so much ms. tina! you&#039;re such an inspiration to young people like me!

bone-cracking hug!;)

-shy</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>hi ms. tina!=) oh-so-true! God knows what is best for us we just have to wait for the right time to come…though it sounds cliche eh yun ang totoo! in our barkada ako lang ang walang boyfriend as in NBSB.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m just plain and ordinary like any other teens, i do not have superficial power on things but i know deep within that this God&#8217;s given life to me is EXTRAORDINARY.</p>
<p>Being part of the so-called NO BOYFRIEND SINCE BIRTH SOCIETY gave me a great opportunity to engage myself in worthwhile things and extend my love to more people, that is of course without doubts and hesitations. As of the moment I am an advocate of children&#8217;s rights and various youth programs.</p>
<p>oo nga, hindi lang ako basta single!hindi lang toh nangyayari dahil choice ko, at may mga bagay akong kinakatakutan. I believe there is a greater purpose why God made me like this today. Perhaps it is beause God wants me to share my passion and affection to people who really needs me. Yung tipong mas marami akong nabibgyan ng pagmamahal sa puso ko kaysa ituon ko sa isang tao na possible naman akong bitawan at ilaglag sa huli, isa pa mas marami rin ang alam kong totoong nagmamahal sakin. Every night I pray for God&#8217;s guidance, I pray that He may give me enough strength so that I could stand firm on my convictions and be able to share my positive beliefs.</p>
<p>Being single taught me a lot of things like knowing my priorities (studies and family), independence, enjoying myself and being able to offer more time on things that are more vital, more time to spend with my family and friends, exploring possibilities, etc.</p>
<p>Now that I am 18 hindi ko hinahayaan na maovercome ako ng feelings and emotions ko, EASIER SAID THAN DONE! hindi naman kasi maaalis sakin na magtaka or magtanong ng “bakit kaya hindi ko pa siya nakikilala?” “when is he going to enter my so-called LIFE?”. I believe it is just normal to ask such questions lalo na kung ang environment mo eh puro lovers but I just realize na everything has a purpose. It’s difficult din naman to jump into a relationship na hindi ka sigurado, yung tipong puno ng uncertainty. I may not be able to find my significant other yet but i know God has blessed me with great family and friends, and that fact makes me realize that i am luckier than anybody else.</p>
<p>It takes a lot of courage and faith in order to keep my purity and stay single, but I am willing to surrender it all to God, the Highest, simply because I know what I ought to have. I have come to realize na kelangan munang maging matatag yung foundation ng relationship ko with God before anything else. And if He is seeing that I am responsible and mature enough with my actions that is the right time that He would give me my other half, someone I would cherish until my dying day.</p>
<p>I am not a perfect daughter, I also struggle at times but through my undying FAITH to God I know that He has prepared better things, far from what I have dreamt of.</p>
<p>Right now I am wearing my purity ring, and this ring isn&#8217;t just an ordinary ring, but a symbol of my commitment to chastity and my belief that I am worth waiting for.</p>
<p>I admire you so much ms. tina! you&#8217;re such an inspiration to young people like me!</p>
<p>bone-cracking hug!;)</p>
<p>-shy</p>
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		<title>By: Miah</title>
		<link>http://www.tinamats.com/old/on-singlehood-love-and-surrender/#comment-35</link>
		<dc:creator>Miah</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 28 May 2009 15:57:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Happiness is not always going to “find” you. You’ve got to passionately, intentionally, search, chase and pursue it on your own. As you know, there will always be people, systems and personalities trying to steal you of your joy and purpose. But once you find your joy, it’s up to you not to let it go.

Choose to be happy, blissful and pleased at this very moment in your life. Seize solace in knowing that your present position doesn’t predict your potential. You’re on your way some place amazing! Create your plans, plan your purposes and continue on your happy, fun- filled course! Be happy, today!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Happiness is not always going to “find” you. You’ve got to passionately, intentionally, search, chase and pursue it on your own. As you know, there will always be people, systems and personalities trying to steal you of your joy and purpose. But once you find your joy, it’s up to you not to let it go.</p>
<p>Choose to be happy, blissful and pleased at this very moment in your life. Seize solace in knowing that your present position doesn’t predict your potential. You’re on your way some place amazing! Create your plans, plan your purposes and continue on your happy, fun- filled course! Be happy, today!</p>
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		<title>By: Ems</title>
		<link>http://www.tinamats.com/old/on-singlehood-love-and-surrender/#comment-34</link>
		<dc:creator>Ems</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 29 Aug 2008 03:24:17 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>typo correction: &#039;I had to learn*** how to stand alone first before I was able to walk with someone…</description>
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		<title>By: Ems</title>
		<link>http://www.tinamats.com/old/on-singlehood-love-and-surrender/#comment-33</link>
		<dc:creator>Ems</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 29 Aug 2008 03:06:36 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hi Tina!!! I too was a NBSB member for a long time. It was hard to be a high school girl when your friends are &#039;crush ng bayan&#039; types that even higher year guys are drawn to them, or when you have sisters who are &#039;popular girls&#039; in campus. College was even worse because I was somehow expecting to be courted but that didn&#039;t happen until 3years later, but don&#039;t get too excited... My first suitor was when I was 19, but he was gay, openly gay, so why he tried to court was still a mystery, haha!!! I was thinking that I was so ready to fall in love, and was so eager to fall in love but for obvious reasons, I had to say no to him.

I&#039;m not bad looking, and I am kind of smart actually... But I would always wonder why guys never see me as &#039;likable&#039;, or &#039;crushable&#039;. I was 21 and I still haven&#039;t had my 1st kiss... I was getting impatient... But I realized that things just don&#039;t work out sometimes. I didn&#039;t give on up love, I just tried to prioritize other things. I honed my singing, I joined a band, I learned a lot about myself and what I like. I also learned to be more glamorous, hehe. Some might think making yourself pretty is superficial, but it is also a way to show that you love yourself and that you take care of what God has given you. You don&#039;t have to have artista look, just be neat and presentable.

The most important things I&#039;ve learned in my whole journey is to get to know myself better, enhance my skills, use my talents, learn new things (I bake, and am good in photography too). I had to learned how to stand alone first before I was able to walk with someone... When you know yourself more, and nurture your talents and skills, you tend to have higher self-esteem and more self-confidence. And that is attractive.

I just turned 27 and I am very happy with my fiance. He came into my life when I am ready. My whole journey before him, happy or sad instances(because I tell you, it doesn&#039;t get easier when you finally have your first relationship), was all worth it. And I thank God for such a wonderful, learning ride :D I wish you luck on yours, enjoy the moments, and if it&#039;s proving to be too tough, just think that it will pass.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Tina!!! I too was a NBSB member for a long time. It was hard to be a high school girl when your friends are &#8216;crush ng bayan&#8217; types that even higher year guys are drawn to them, or when you have sisters who are &#8216;popular girls&#8217; in campus. College was even worse because I was somehow expecting to be courted but that didn&#8217;t happen until 3years later, but don&#8217;t get too excited&#8230; My first suitor was when I was 19, but he was gay, openly gay, so why he tried to court was still a mystery, haha!!! I was thinking that I was so ready to fall in love, and was so eager to fall in love but for obvious reasons, I had to say no to him.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m not bad looking, and I am kind of smart actually&#8230; But I would always wonder why guys never see me as &#8216;likable&#8217;, or &#8216;crushable&#8217;. I was 21 and I still haven&#8217;t had my 1st kiss&#8230; I was getting impatient&#8230; But I realized that things just don&#8217;t work out sometimes. I didn&#8217;t give on up love, I just tried to prioritize other things. I honed my singing, I joined a band, I learned a lot about myself and what I like. I also learned to be more glamorous, hehe. Some might think making yourself pretty is superficial, but it is also a way to show that you love yourself and that you take care of what God has given you. You don&#8217;t have to have artista look, just be neat and presentable.</p>
<p>The most important things I&#8217;ve learned in my whole journey is to get to know myself better, enhance my skills, use my talents, learn new things (I bake, and am good in photography too). I had to learned how to stand alone first before I was able to walk with someone&#8230; When you know yourself more, and nurture your talents and skills, you tend to have higher self-esteem and more self-confidence. And that is attractive.</p>
<p>I just turned 27 and I am very happy with my fiance. He came into my life when I am ready. My whole journey before him, happy or sad instances(because I tell you, it doesn&#8217;t get easier when you finally have your first relationship), was all worth it. And I thank God for such a wonderful, learning ride :D I wish you luck on yours, enjoy the moments, and if it&#8217;s proving to be too tough, just think that it will pass.</p>
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		<title>By: Refine Me &#187; Two Years Later, How&#8217;s that Heart?</title>
		<link>http://www.tinamats.com/old/on-singlehood-love-and-surrender/#comment-32</link>
		<dc:creator>Refine Me &#187; Two Years Later, How&#8217;s that Heart?</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 21 Jun 2008 15:01:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] been exactly two years since I wrote this entry, which has been one of my most read/viewed posts to date. I&#8217;ve received lots of comments on [...]</description>
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		<dc:creator>it&#8217;s all about him &#9829; &#187; Blog Archive &#187; On Singlehood, Love and Surrender</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 30 May 2008 06:03:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] June 21, 2006 at Refine Me. &#8220;I want you to live a life as free of complications as possible. When [...]</description>
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